There is nothing that shutter one's dreams as an unhappy marriage.There is nothing that frustrates and disappoints a person's heart as a marriage filled with problems day after day, week after week and month after month. On the other hand, there is nothing that comforts, encourages, soothes and stimulates one's hopes, plans, aspirations and life as a happy marriage. In fact, the desire of every man and woman is to have a happy mariage.
Marriage is monogamous; For one to experience happiness in marriage ,the principle of one man to one woman MUST be believed ,accepted and be lived. Adam was given one wife by God. Polygamy can not bring happiness. Extra-marital relatoinship also cannot bring happiness.
Marriage is to be Heterosexual; This means man to woman or woman to man and not man to man or woman to woman . No man or woman can ever be happy while taking another male or female for a spouse and it is against God plans, so it cannot bring happiness.
Marriage is one-flesh relationship; Adam unites with Eve to form one fresh. In our context, a man leaves his parents to join or to cleave to his wife and both become one flesh.
The REAL HAPPINESS in marriage is when a man or a woman commits his or her life totally. In the marriage vows, you promised "for better or worse. . .till death do us part".Today, people see this merely as ritual, but God says,"What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder".Because people take their commitment very lightly, many marriage breakup for immature and unreasonable things.
Then the unresolved problem, hurts and conflicts remains in that marriage. But it the high time to reaffirm your mariage as a permanent commitment and an unbreakable union, and to give stability to your marriage and security to your spouse, it is good to commit yourself to stay married forever,no matter what. A home which is both secure and happy, must be built on a real understanding of what makes a marriage successful.
How to avoid Divorce in Marriage;
1. Both of them should know that it is a sin not to solve their marital or domestic problems peacefully and in humility.
2. Both the spouse should commit their lives to Jesus daily, willing to walk and live according to His will.
3. Both of them should learn and practice communicating to each other even when one does not feel like.
4. Both of them should make a commitment to stay and rest together, and be faithful to each other as long as life in them lasts.
5. The rule of forgiveness must be accepted and practised by every spouse.
6. Both should pray, worship, sing,stay together, remember the house that pray together, stays together.
7. Both must create time to be alone, away from the normal chores of life.
8.At all costs,both spouse should avoid getting and staying angry.The attitude of condemnation, criticism and fault finding should be avoided.
9.Let each spouse actually plan to assist the other in carrying family burden.
10. Every spouse should know that it is hard to live with everybody, it is by effort and determination that marriage survive and thrive. The key point is Marriage is a permanent union which supposed to last as both spouse live.
